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雅思阅读美文鉴赏:培养优异的人际关系

作者: 潮帝 来源: 潮帝文学网 发布时间: 2020年10月17日 00:09:52


  Every relationship is a sacred dance. There are moments when partners are so aligned that they move as one. At other times, they struggle over who is 

leading and step on each other’s toes. Peace and success in life require us to be masters of relationships.


  每一段人际联系都是一曲纯洁的舞蹈。舞伴们有时会步调一致、整齐划一;有时会互相抢先、互相挤踩。日子的祥和与成功要求咱们必须精通人际交往。


  Several essential principles support healthy relationships. Integrate these basic tenets into your view of yourself and the people in your life, and you will 

experience a renewed sense of freedom and optimism in your relationships.


  这里有一些根本准则可以协助树立杰出的人际联系。将这些根本要素融入对自己和对日子中其他人的观点中去,你就会在人际交往中收成全新的自由和达观

心情。


  1. We are responsible for our own emotional life.
  要为自己的心情担任。

  If we are to experience comfortable, nourishing relationships, we have to relinquish the idea that someone else can make us feel a certain way. If we 

hold another person responsible when we are upset, we surrender our power, which makes us less capable of creating the outcome we seek. If there is 

something that is lacking in one of your core relationships, cast off the role of victim and commit to creating the love you deserve.


  假如想具有和谐、健康的人际联系,咱们就必须摒弃是他人影响了咱们的心情这种想法。假如咱们认为心慌意乱是他人造成的,咱们就扔掉了自己的权利,这会使咱们更加难以得到自己尽力寻求的成果。假如在你的首要人际联系中存在某种短缺,那就扔掉受害者的角色,全身心地发明你应该得到的爱吧。


  2. Healthy relationships are based upon a deep rooted conviction in equality.

  杰出的人际联系是以深深植根的相等理念为基础的。

  Ego-rooted relationships reinforce insecurities. When one person criticizes, demeans, or asserts authority over another, it may temporarily improve the 

self-esteem of one by lowering another’s, but this assumption of power is always vulnerable. Relationships based upon mutual respect liberate energy that 

becomes available for creativity.


  以自我为中心的人际联系只会添加不安全感。当一个人责备、贬低,或者是向他人施压的时候,这只会暂时提高他的自负而下降另一个人的自负,这种自以为是的强势总是一触即溃的。树立在相互尊重基础上的人际联系可以释放你的能力,然后激起你的发明力。


  This principle is of particular importance when the relationship is between an adult and a child. It is essential for the parent to recognize the child’s 

equality on the level of the soul. If this intention is present throughout children’s upbringing, they will develop a sense of dignity and respect that will serve 

them throughout their lives.


  在成人和孩子的联系中,这一理念尤其重要。爸爸妈妈应该供认孩子在精神上与成人是相等的。假如这个观念一向陪伴着孩子的成长进程,孩子就会树立起自负自重的特性,这会令他们终生受益。


  3. Conscious communication builds nurturing relationships.
  有意识的沟通能协助树立杰出的人际联系。

  Determine what you need and ask for it. Teach the people in your family to identify their needs and express themselves in ways that increase the

 likelihood that their needs will be met.


  确定自己需求什么,然后提出要求。要教会家人认清自己的需求,并知道怎样表达才能使要求被满意的可能性更大。


  Show your children how to get needs met without resorting to emotional escalation. Your behavior provides the most compelling lesson.


  教会孩子怎样才能不凭借心情升级就能使愿望得到满意。你的行为举止就是最有说服力的教材。


  4. Give what you seek.
  奉献你的所爱。
  Human beings have four basic needs in a relationship: attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance. We give attention by making eye contact. We 

express affection by connecting physically with sensitivity and permission. We demonstrate appreciation by telling and showing people that they add value to

 our lives. We provide acceptance by cultivating an internalconversation of recognizing ourselves in the other and the other in ourselves.